If only we were all guaranteed success at everything in life…oh how our experience of the world would be different, but would it necessarily be better? As much as we try to protect children against failure and disappointment there are key lessons to be learned and opportunities to be enjoyed.
Here’s how a little failure can arm children for academic success…
No person will make it through life without experiencing the sting of failure, but those who understand how to deal with it and learn from it have the greatest chance of success. Or in the words of American educational reformer John Dewey: “Failure is instructive. The person who really thinks learns quite as much from his failures as from his successes”.
Arguably a student’s fear of failure can be more debilitating than the experience itself. Left unchecked, it can lead to avoiding experiences or situations entirely for fear they will not be good enough, will embarrass themselves and will be ridiculed by their peers. Early exposure to the concept of attempting something without success allows children to find strategies to think around a problem.
It’s all well and good to solve a problem instantly or to experience no problem at all. But life doesn’t work like that. A failed first attempt teaches children to pick themselves up and work around an issue, employing different means.
There are many examples of people to whom skills and achievements come naturally, but there are far more instances of people who overcame obstacles to achieve their goals in life. By allowing children to fail you arm them with the knowledge applied afford and perseverance go hand in hand with success.
When Sarah Blakely, America’s youngest female billionaire and creator of Spanx, was growing up, her father would often ask her the same question at dinner time, CNBC reports.
“What have you failed at this week?” Sarah recalled. “My dad growing up encouraged me and my brother to fail. The gift he was giving me is that failure is not trying versus the outcome. It’s really allowed me to be much freer in trying things and spreading my wings in life.”
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